Writing Smut

Today I text one of my good friends and beta readers:

Me- Ive been avoiding it, but I might have to write a sex scene

S- Probably… if it was YA you could avoid it… but she’s an adult

Me- {Whew} Disaster averted.. I think I can hold off a few more scenes

S- You know you wanna write one

Me- I’m embarrassed that my husband would read it… can you imagine being the husband of the chick that wrote 50 Shades of Grey. I got close tho.

Now I will admit that deep down, yeah I want to write it, but as a new author, I am accustomed to writing about what I know. And I am the prude person that will change the subject when I am faced with most sex conversations. (If you have known me in my 20s, yes people change). Just because i worked in a predominately male profession, does not make me one of the guys. I might use bad language in extremely colorful ways, but it does not mean I am now, as a mom, comfortable discussing such a private matter.

I am scared that someone I know is going to read this sex scene and think it’s a chapter from my memoir. Inevitably, it will be written, and I am anxious about doing it (in a giggly school girl kids of way). It’s like that first time and you’re worried “maybe I don’t know what I am doing?” Or my friend will read what I consider to be a simple vague description, and tell me it is borderline pornographic. Why is this so freaking scary?!

Anyway, I am not usually nervous about putting my writing out there, but this will be my biggest hurdle in writing my novel.

So, my awesome Readers, if you suddenly stop getting word count updates or I don’t post any new content, It will be because the smut was written and I’m too terrified to share.

If you are interested in reading my book about a MOM that saves the world, instead of a teenage girl (I was an idiot in my teens), you can find Apparent Power on Chapterbuz.com (currently at the #2 spot. “Buzz” the chapters you like and bring me back to #1!!)

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6 thoughts on “Writing Smut

  1. Go for the gusto Sis’ because we limit ourselves with these type of boundaries. When it all boils down to taking the horse by the reins, we have to push past what others expect of us and do what our passion for creativity requires, that we create. It may seem scary and nerve racking but it must be done. You are an artist and no artist, that I’m aware of, stayed within the confines of the first glass ceiling or plateau that presented themselves. So, in the words of Shia Lebouf, LIST DO IT 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Good luck and luv ya!

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  2. Go for it! I used to write it more liberally when it was under a pen name for fan fiction purposes and then as Liz I changed the way I wrote those scenes completely, like fully reining myself in and some of my friends could tell. They said it was frustrating because they could see me going and going and then – STOP. I deleted all my smutty scenes from my second book because I dedicated it to my mom and I didn’t want her to read it. Once she got her paperback copy I put some back in LOL

    I think we all worry about writing sex scenes and wonder if people think we’re doing a memoir but sex is essential and most of us have it. And the ones of us who don’t wish we did. The smut I’m writing now is for a Kindle World that is an erotic romance so I have no choice, but it’s my way of writing something within someone else’s world that’s still me. And after so much hemming and hawing about using a pen name for it, it will bear my Liz name. I figure after my last birthday, I’m too old to worry about what everyone thinks 🙂

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  3. I have read many books – even by men (!) who leave the sex scenes to the reader’s imagination, the writer metaphorically shuts the door on the couple to allow them some privacy. I’ve also read plenty of romances with no sex at all (think Jane Austen, Charlotte Bronte!!) Although I’m perfectly comfortable talking about sex with my friends because it’s a good and normal thing to talk about, I wouldn’t talk to strangers about it and as a consequence I agree that I would be uncomfortable writing about it. The thing that might be helpful for you to bear in mind is that you are the author in charge of your work, it will be your name you are associating with your work..

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  4. I find these types of seen (even just plain romance) the most difficult to write. Like you, I still have my mum in the back of my mind, even though I’m 45 with two children! For a while I even left out swearing but I was given a piece of advice that was really helpful and that is to speak the truth. A group of teenagers wouldn’t say ‘goodness me. Look at that. ‘ in the same way, if you feel sex is called for, you should write it in. Your friends may surprise you and not be bothered. If it wasn’t there, would the scene be less believable? If the answer is yes, you need to write it in.

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    1. I do shy away from swearing in my writing. And if I do, it’s because the scene called for it. Even my brassy “one-of-the-guys” character doesn’t swear, but uses humorous and colorful language. (my favorite character to write).

      So, the smut will be written. Sorry, Aunt J and Aunt B and Aunt C and Aunt T and Aunt K… I have a ton of aunts. I’ll just let them know what page it’s on I guess.

      Thanks for the input, Steve. I have always been impressed/ intimidated by you. So your advice goes along way.

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