I have never been the one to mess with. I have either always knew the rule or researched it enough to know whether my stance on the matter was right or wrong. Health/ dental insurance don’t mess with me. I know my contract in and out. I know what I am “entitled to”.
“But Dacia, you’re a millennial, you’re not entitled to anything!
I am a ten year Army veteran. I have earned my health and dental plans. (But really they are my husband’s work’s so shut up. Yes I have ‘earned’ them)
So let me tell you women something. You do not have to agree with what they tell you.
You don’t have to go along because you don’t know any better
You can learn negative and detrimental things of you own past that bring to light something you held at high regard.
You can learn that ‘”protection” might not have actually saved you from the danger of your own family.
You can learn that after 32 years of existence, what you thought you had built your own foundation on was a lie or was kept a secret from you, in hopes that it would go away.
I feel ashamed and defensive. I feel like I am owed the truth on the matter before I go chiseling at the details.
I feel that being so comfortably removed from the situation has, yes, saved me from the physical hurt that others have experienced but also left the remaining victims silent in their recovery, personal remorse, and unable to anonymously share their side of the story.
Ladies- You are not alone. Many have felt this pain. It is not my story to tell, but if you can help others by stepping up, then maybe it’s worth it.
It is time that you have felt this validation. That YOU know that you are loved despite the things that happened to you.
I grew up so far removed. My memories are locked in the photos I own. I try to apply principles to my own little family that has very different dynamics.
If you can please help me to understand why women lay so vulnerable to men; not allowing their own voices to be heard. Why do you place your husband above the love of your children? Then I may be able to sleep tonight.